Space is not the final frontier...

...that's just a myth! Its the heart, our emotions. Nothing beyond.

Nobody wants to deal with another's negative emotions. Nobody. Not even your parents, sisters, brothers. They might endure, given the ties of blood. But nobody enjoys the company of a whimping soul. No, not even a spouse! Go figure it our yourself, & yes preferably ALONE.

Human as we are, we look for anchoring. Unfortunately, massively so during our dull days. We clambour & whine & cling. We expect something in return from our inner circle (those poor unfortunate friends, family members or even lovers). Sometimes its just support, sometimes encouragement, sometimes pampering, sometimes reassurances...& when we don't get it, we're miserable. We're miserable & we make others even more miserable ('you weren't there for me', 'you're so selfish').

Be selfish. Make it on your own. Do things that you need to keep you happy.
Dance.Shop.Go to the spa if you need pampering. Attend meditation classes if you're emotionally rolled over. Figure what it takes, but be self sufficient.

Only a happy person can make someone else happy. And don't be fooled, everyone wants happy friends, wives, husbands, brothers, sisters (you get the drift?). If you can't take the stress, if your job sucks, if your relationship goes kaput...run to a random building's terrace and scream your lungs out. But get it out of your system on your own. Don't burden others with your sob stories!!!

Handing out & keeping your happiness in other people's hands is the root cause of misery. Be there if other's need you, but first master your own emotions. Sometimes it helps to use random strangers as confidantes, people you'll never see again. Sometimes all you need is to get a little drunk & things look better...whatever helps!

Be a happy person & reach out to people who're happy! That's the sad fact of life.
Everytime I'm depressed, I do something that I'm afraid of. Go take that bungee jump. Go surprise yourself, but just keep going!

The day I reach my final frontier, I'll keep you posted!
Cya when you're feeling happy.

Love,
I'm-done-being-your-agony-aunt